How to Deal With Stress & Overcome Adversity When Losing Weight
You have to learn how to overcome adversity if you want to get the body of your dreams. You can’t give into negative desires and fears. It’s all about trying to be better TODAY than you were YESTERDAY.
It’s a conscious choice you have to make. I like to use the analogy of a diamond. Diamonds are made out of carbon. In order for carbon to turn into a beautiful diamond, it has to undergo immense pressure.
We have this same type of pressure in our lives, too. It’s called stress.
There are two major different types of stress:
Chronic: This is the nagging stress that always seems to be there, almost breathing down your neck.
Examples are school, relationships and work. These are dependent on environment, though. This means that it’s external and you have the ability to change it and make it better.
Acute: This is the short, intense stress. An unlikely, but accurate example of this, is if you’re in a forest and out of nowhere, a giant bear pops out. Your options are either to try and out-run it (good luck) or to kill it. This is also an example of the “fight or flight” response. Our bodies were made to handle this type of stress.
Unfortunately, there are several ways to get stressed out.
At the end of the day, whether or not we overcome adversity will depend on how we learn to handle the stress.
The decision to become stronger, or the decision to submit will determine if we grow as an individual.
So how does this all relate to weight loss?
Working out is an acute stress. When you’re in the gym, you’re putting your body through intense physical stress for a generally short amount of time (about an hour for example).
When you challenge yourself, you become stronger in the end. We have similar “fight or flight” scenarios in the gym. You could be getting ready to attempt a new personal one rep max, or trying to get a new best time while running a mile, or anything else that is new and you know will be very tough.
The “fight” response would be to go into it with confidence and dominate every aspect of your challenge. The “flight” response happens when you start doubting yourself and all those negative thoughts in your head.
It’s important to remember, that the more chronic stress you have, the less acute stress you can handle.
Learning to overcome this and become stronger (physically and/or mentally) is how you grow and create a thicker skin for yourself.
This will allow you to handle greater stress and overcome greater challenges as time goes on.
But it’s time to be honest. It’s not easy to do. If it was easy, everyone could do it.
You won’t always be successful, you most likely will fail at some point. But failure is completely acceptable and even encouraged sometimes, just as long as you can learn from it and become better.
Failure is a learning process. If you fail over and over, and learn nothing from it, then you’re wasting your time. Failure can teach you, if you let it.
This is a reason why some people that are new to training and fitness get discouraged. They make unrealistic goals, then fail and get frustrated. They don’t analyze their goals and failures to see where things went wrong. They then repeat the same mistakes and eventually get worn out and just quit.
Develop smart goals and learn how to challenge yourself. Overcome adversity to be able to handle more stress, and you will be able to achieve bigger and bigger goals.
Soon, those goals you set, will look small in retrospect, as you achieve bigger and better things on your path to becoming your own diamond.